A Woman in a Man’s World - A Catalyst for Change

A Woman in a Man’s World - A Catalyst for Change

We have heard before that we can’t control anyone else’s behaviour, and we can’t make another person change. But what happens when we, as individuals — as Men and Women — expect the other to change?

Not only do we start to ignore their unique qualities as individuals, but we begin to undermine their strengths. As women, we naturally know how to evoke emotion, create intimacy and lead from the heart to inspire action. We know how to make people feel good. Men lead by winning, they love the rewards that come from doing their best and pleasing those around them—and they want to do their job and perform it well.

A Woman in a Man’s World - The Cost of Economic Success

A Woman in a Man’s World - The Cost of Economic Success

As women, we are more independent and have more economic power than ever. But from my research I’ve found that we are also sick, lonely, unhappy and unfulfilled.

For a long time I sacrificed my feminine side for economic success—but it came with a huge cost: my health.

What do I mean by my “feminine side”? While both masculine and feminine energies are equally necessary, we tend to favour the masculine especially when it comes to business. Those unique feminine qualities, such as openness, reciprocity, flow and grace tend to be disregarded and ignored in favour of competition, aggressiveness and hierarchy.

A Woman in a Man’s World - The Masks we Wear

A Woman in a Man’s World - The Masks we Wear

As women, some of what we have been taught has failed us, especially when it comes to how we show up in business. When I was younger I wanted independence and financial freedom.

But whether it was said out loud or expressed subconsciously, being my normal open, intuitive and vulnerable self was not accepted or encouraged.

Instead, I learned there was no place for feelings in business. I put on a mask. I dyed my hair brown, I put on a suit, suppressed my feelings and ignored my intuition. I adopted a linear and task-oriented structure, which robbed me of my passion...and I lost my sense of self.